Say ‘No thank you’

to etiquette breach

Editor, Times-Dispatch:

Emily Post is turning over in her grave and grandmothers everywhere are wringing their hands with disbelief. First it was destination weddings where guests had to spend money to attend a wedding and also were expected to give a large gift. Then it was wedding invitations by email. Then it was prenuptial couples who didn’t register for gifts because they had everything so they just asked guests to pay for their honeymoon.

Now they don’t even have to send thank-you notes by hand, email or otherwise. According to the article “No Time to Write?” in Sunday’s RTD, someone else will do it for a fee. And not only for wedding gifts, but to quote Taryn Singer, who started alleviating customers from the “dreaded task,” notes can be provided for every occasion ranging from birthday parties and funerals to job interviews.

One etiquette adviser said getting someone else to do the “thankless task” at least gets it done, and another expert said it is better than no note at all. Well, this potential future gift giver might not perform the “dreaded task” of shopping or writing a check, which will then cause the poor recipient the “thankless task” of saying thank you.

Dolly Hintz.


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